January 8, 1971 was my birthday and today I celebrated it online with some of my closest soul sisters!
It can be such a challenge to find true heart connected friendships, especially when you are on a path to really up-level and expand your consciousness. Many friendships just drop off. And it’s super super sad.
I was watching the final episode of Stranger Things and they graduate in 1989 which was my graduation year. There were a TON of things that were so nostalgic for me in that show, but one of the things I walked away from it with was this sense that there is so much beauty in those precious moments and then they are gone. When we are young, we simply don’t have the presence to truly appreciate it. I mean, we are caught up in the young dramas going on for sure! But those little moments and the friends you are loving at that time. It just vaporizes. I have an excellent memory and can certainly conjure the moments, but it really isn’t the same and I miss them. I miss being satisfied with young Margaret and young Margaret’s life sometimes and yet, I am SOOO grateful I am where I am now.
Growing up, all of the Christmas decor HAD to be taken down by my orders in order to prepare for the upcoming festivities – MY BIRTHDAY! I absolutely LOVED celebrating my birthday. My college friends would love to tease me about how much I loved celebrating it. I had Birthday Week and then it evolved into Birthday Month! Everything was a cause for celebrating my birthday. In essence it was something inside of me that really wanted to honor why I came here. To recalibrate to my divine commitment, my calling, my path. And doing this not only reflectively on my own, but in community with other women and men that I have shared this journey with. (By the way, the decorations can stay up past my birthday now!)
Of course, having kids and Mothering does a number on this. It can become something we “have” to celebrate and something WE have to organize for everyone else to celebrate with us. It’s fun, but it’s also a chore at times and is not the same.
Then after losing friends, moving states and having the world shut down during my 50th with many of my close friends just forgetting my birthday, I just sort of barely celebrated. Carly and i would do things together…we went to Thermopolis hot springs in Wyoming one year, did vision boards on another year. Daniel and I went to Saratoga Hot Springs in Wyoming one year – but there is just NOTHING like celebrating with other women in community that you love.
So feeling this calling in my heart, I thought…what if I did an online birthday with the women that I had become close with in my online spaces. The ones who are deeply committed along with me to our spiritual paths. So I created an invite and waited to see if people would join and low and behold my lovely friends came to my online party! All my friends got to meet one another. Some rolled in after work…some had to leave early due to other commitments or later time zones, but it was a very loving and tender space for my birthday celebration.
I felt so honored by the many things they shared about me. It made me feel amazing! What a bonus! Had not even thought of that. I shared my favorite invocation of E’ Homai a Hawaiian oli, we read from Starfire Wisdom, we shared our insights and then we shared our deep well wishes for Mama Gaia and the world for 2026! OH MY GOODNESS – there was so much power in what we are all locking in to bloom into being for our planet. It was so inspirational.
It was SO much fun, I suggested we do another UN-birthday later this year!
So I just want to encourage others, that if you are feeling deeper connections with people you might call more your soul family than you are with those around you physically, I highly encourage you to consider this idea of throwing yourself an online birthday. It was the BEST birthday I feel like I have ever had.
Let me know what you think of this idea, if it resonates for you! I am happy to share how I organized it in more detail!
Lovingly,
Margaret
