I’m not sure why this feels so truly radical to share, but it is. It’s almost actually hard to write about because it feels so overwhelming as to where to begin. By the end of this article though, you will have three very simple but quite profound ways to start taking baby steps on learning to take your own responsibility for your health creation journey!
I am currently immersed in the Freebirth Society’s Radical Birth Keeper School and interestingly, one of the courses of the study is truly immersing ourselves as Radical Birth Keepers in the teachings of The Conscious Leadership Group and the book “The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A new paradigm for sustainable success.” These teachings mirror exactly what I have come to learn through my own evolution. In short stepping out of victimhood and creating a blame free zone.
Of course, The Conscious Leadership Group has a system that is really fantastic for understanding how we are consistently participating in what is referred to as the Victim/Savior/Villain triangle. I have to say, it’s a great method and I highly recommend checking out their website and a lot of the free material they offer there.
However, even when you read the book or do the work of the teachings, we are not always ready to let go of being part of this triangle. You see, if we stop being a victim, then we cannot have a savior and we also cannot have anyone like a villain to blame. It means that we have to truly step into owning a radical sense of personal responsibility.
I think people are willing to take on personal responsibility for some things, but I have witnessed that when it comes to their health, this gets really challenging for most people.
I have to come back to the fact that from birth we have been systematically conditioned to feel beholden to this system. We are sort of mesmerized by it. We are almost entranced. It is reinforced at so many angles. For example, if you choose to step outside of their recommendations and their protocols, first off – it’s really hard to stand up for yourself to a physician. They will likely tell you that you have some level of a death sentence that stands over you and your diagnosis or if unchecked or if you don’t follow the protocol you will basically die. This is thrown around very casually. And so there is this lingering sense that you are acting irresponsibly or in a dangerous fashion. This tuggs at you staying in the victim place, and allows them to maintain being your savior. At this point the diagnosis is the villain.
Then there is the aspect of friends and family. The diagnosis itself may bring up images for them as to what type of health concern you SHOULD have and how seriously you SHOULD be taking it. It’s so tricky because we want to feel surrounded by love and support by our loved ones when we have received some sort of concerning diagnosis. But the thoughts of everyone is that we all HAVE to do what a doctor says no matter what. At this point, they either will feel like you also are a victim, the doctor the savior and the diagnosis the villain.
The problem is that doctors don’t actually always know what’s best or right for us and darn it we may have other information that is coming to us that is showing another course of action would be our best way to go. In some cases, this other information may not be the internet, may not be a different type of physician, but may actually be….OMG …our own intuition and inner guidance. Heaven forbid! Can you even imagine that we could potentially be guided by something other than the Church of the western industrial medical complex! At this point, if you at all share this with the physician or your loved ones, you are now not only the victim, but you are also the villain and their view is that the only one to save you is the doctor.
Another fact that everyone really needs to remember is that every time you step back in the western medical system at a doctor’s office, a lab, a hospital etc…YOU ARE A BILLABLE ITEM! That’s right! It’s been said loud and clear. You represent an item that is billable and their are protocols that if you get X diagnosis you are meant to fall in line for X,Y, Z procedures. IF you say no to that, then they don’t want you walking out the door completely…they will find another “compromised” procedure or medication that they will pass your way and you will end up feeling like you SHOULD go along with this “olive branch” of option 2. This allows you to sort of “feel” like you are stepping out of the victim space because you didn’t say Yes to the first option, but only option 2; however, they are still in the position of “saving” you as they will be the ones to administer this secondary procedure that, if it works, they “saved you”. If it doesn’t work, now they totally get to blame you as not having complied with procedure or protocol #1. UGH…So you didn’t actually get yourself out of this.
Honestly, this is just another way to keep you in the entranced state…the place of being slightly gas lit…I mean, that was really nice of them to offer you another option, right? And your family and friends will be saying, you should really take this option as well.
I guess my best response to this is that truly what this all boils down to is how comfortable are we with dying and how confidently can you share your feelings and your outlooks with how you want this to shake down with your friends and family. This segue’s to two great episodes from the podcast that you may wish to check out:
Ep 39: Conversations with a Death Doula
As well as
Ep 40: Embracing Life Through Conceiving Death
The baby steps I offer would be really laying the foundation…the rich soil for which you can feel truly nurtured and supported as you start to step out onto your full sovereign health creation path.
- Sign up for the Womb Empowerments. The Womb Empowerments are an excellent tool to start using on the daily to lay the foundation of confidence in who you are and your worthiness of honoring your own sovereign choices.
- Show yourself that you are trust worthy. Start building your trust muscle by creating ways you can show up for yourself. It can be simple…stepping outside into nature for 5 minutes a day or 3 days a week. Drinking more water consistently…whatever it is that I would refer to as your “next best health creation choice” for YOU. Do it! Make it small and doable so that you can show yourself you can show up.
- Start considering who you are in this life, what your thoughts are around death…what your family’s feelings and teachings have been around death…what your partner thinks of it. What I always come back to is that the ONLY thing we are guaranteed when we embody in this life is that we will die. It’s a guarantee. You simply can not fully step out of the Victim/Savior/Villain triangle unless you are in right relation with death. Death will always have a hold over you ESPECIALLY when you enter the western industrial medical complex.
I will be going into how to fully come into owning your responsibility in my upcoming course on How to Create a Trusting Relationship with Yourself and Your Health Care Practitioner to Amplify Your Womb Health. If you are curious about this. Click the link here and sign up for updates so that you will be notified. I will also be offering a shorter webinar, but profound talk on Seven Critical Steps to an Empowered Relationship with Your Health Care Practitioner. You can also sign up for notifications on that link.
Lastly, upcoming are several episodes where I am featuring people who have chosen to hear their western industrial medical care providers advice and NOT abide by what they suggested. These are powerful episodes to listen to as the more we hear of other people stepping into their power and how they did it, the more doable it feels for us. One of them will for sure be Episode 43 with Patricia Hernandez Stadler. We will create a playlist as we acquire this that should be available on YouTube…stay tuned.
If you feel like you have a story to share with us about stepping outside of the western medical industrial medical models recommendations and follow your own sovereign health creation choice, we would absolutely love to hear it and share your story with others. Please complete our form here: SOVEREIGN HEALTH CHOICE FORM
If you have experienced an injustice in the western medical industrial complex – either at the hands of mistreatment by front desk staff, physicians, a system or other – please complete our INCIDENT REPORT FORM HERE.
Until then – Please remember to Yin-care by Honoring Yourself. Celebrating Your Strength. And Empowering Your Transformation. Through…your Yin-care®!!!
